It can be difficult to stay positive when you learn a new skill.
Though you know you’re a positive person, you can get frustrated when you’re not progressing in the way you’d like.
I started out as a young student at a conservatory, passionate about becoming a singer. Happy and thankful that I could put all my energy in music and singing. Determined to make the most out of this opportunity.
I felt pressure to live up to my own expectations.
And pretty soon the feeling of ‘not being enough’ started to creep up on me.
I got too hard on myself.
Where singing started as a reason to be joyful, it soon turned into a reason to feel frustrated. And as frustrations piled up, it even made me unhappy.
After a period of feeling lonely and unworthy, I had ENOUGH!
I began to look for ways to turn frustration into something more constructive.
I started to look for people who could inspire me. Show me new directions.
So each time I met someone who was passionate and ambitious,
without losing his zest for life, I watched closely.
➡️ What did he or she do differently?
➡️ Why was he able to stay positive?
➡️ Is optimism a personality trait?
➡️ Or is it something you can learn?
Then one fine day, the possibility of change introduced itself with just one simple comment.
I just started out with a new vocal coach and on that particular day, I was working with her on some Mozart.
After observing how I talked to myself, she looked at me with bright eyes and asked,
“Why do you talk to yourself like that?”
Was it the first time someone asked me that question? I don’t know. Probably not.
But what I do know is that at that specific moment, that question woke me up.
Suddenly I was capable to take a step back and observe myself.
Becoming aware of the way I labeled myself by the words I chose:
➡️ I’ll never be able to do that
➡️ I’m such a klutz
➡️ I’m a slow learner
It hit me like a train.
It was ME all along, shaping my reality with the words I chose MYSELF.
HUGE TURNING POINT!
Since then I’m wide awake when I choose my words.
I choose them carefully and when I find one that pulls me down, it has to go. IMMEDIATELY.
Because I know now with every fiber in my body:
Each word you choose carries an energy.
By speaking a word, you give life to the energy that’s part of it, and sooner or later that energy will circle back to you. Creating your reality.
Choose words from a place of resilience and possibility.
Say them out loud.
Even if they don’t feel like a reality (yet).
Talk to yourself like someone you love.
How do you talk to yourself? What works and what doesn’t?
Love to hear from you in the comments below ✨