It can be difficult to stay positive when you learn a new skill.
Though you know you’re a positive person, you can get frustrated when you’re not progressing in the way you’d like.

I started out as a young student at a conservatory, passionate about becoming a singer. Happy and thankful that I could put all my energy in music and singing. 
Determined to make the most out of this opportunity.


But….
I felt pressure to live up to my own expectations.
And pretty soon the feeling of ‘not being enough’ started to creep up on me. 

I got too hard on myself.

Where singing started as a reason to be joyful, it soon turned into a reason to feel frustrated. And as frustrations piled up, it even made me unhappy.



After a period of feeling lonely and unworthy, I had ENOUGH!

I began to look for ways to turn frustration into something more constructive.

I started to look for people who could inspire me. Show me new directions.

So each time I met someone who was passionate and ambitious,
without losing his zest for life, I watched closely.

➡️ What did he or she do differently?
➡️ Why was he able to stay positive?
➡️ Is optimism a personality trait?
➡️ Or is it something you can learn? 


Then one fine day, the possibility of change introduced itself with just one simple comment.



I just started out with a new vocal coach and on that particular day, I was working with her on some Mozart.
After observing how I talked to myself, she looked at me with bright eyes and asked,
“Why do you talk to yourself like that?”



Was it the first time someone asked me that question? I don’t know. Probably not.

But what I do know is that at that specific moment, that question woke me up.

Suddenly I was capable to take a step back and observe myself.
Becoming aware of the way I labeled myself by the words I chose:
➡️ I’ll never be able to do that
➡️ I’m such a klutz
➡️ I’m a slow learner


It hit me like a train.
It was ME all along, shaping my reality with the words I chose MYSELF.

HUGE TURNING POINT!

Since then I’m wide awake when I choose my words.

I choose them carefully and when I find one that pulls me down, it has to go. IMMEDIATELY.

Because I know now with every fiber in my body: 


Each word you choose carries an energy.

By speaking a word, you give life to the energy that’s part of it, and sooner or later that energy will circle back to you. Creating your reality.



Choose words from a place of resilience and possibility. 
Say them out loud.
Even if they don’t feel like a reality (yet).
Talk to yourself like someone you love.

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How do you talk to yourself? What works and what doesn’t?
Love to hear from you in the comments below ✨

xo sara